So what stops us from making our resolve stick? Could it be our vice-like grip on the story line or plot of what our life 'should' look like. Can this attachment over-ride our efforts to change, and thus we reset back to the comforts of autopilot? As Albert Einstein said, 'No problem can be solved from the same level of consciousness that created it', so that door that opens for us to make changes like quitting smoking, coffee or alcohol, losing weight, exercising more, or eating healthy foods can close quickly when our level of understanding about what honestly drives our behavior is not revealed. The 'why' of our harmful choices holds the key to complete change:
'Why do I need substances to numb out or distract myself?'
'What is it I am trying to avoid feeling?'
'Why have I chosen to be driven by a part of me that allows choices that are harming to myself and others?'
'Why do I so often not explore the why of my behaviors?'
Do we not avoid such questioning simply because we don't want to be busted?! We may work extremely hard not to be exposed by others, our secret wounds wrapped in the bandages of a life that may outwardly appear to be great - so why would we go through the painful process of personally exposing the soup we are in? If in sensing the pain of our wounds we develop a belief that delving within ourselves will only find something loathsome, if we don't sense even an inkling of the magnificent jewel of our true nature hiding in that soup, we may be terrified to take this level of responsibility. Especially to take not partial, but 100% responsibility for the situation we are in. Yet taking gentle, loving responsibility for the complete exposure of the illusion we are in is just what may stand between a mere existence, and daily joyful living and truth. My favorite cartoonist, Michael Leunig illustrates this for us beautifully: